When your nervous system learned early that love meant unpredictability or fear, it becomes difficult to recognize what healthy connection actually looks like. In this personal essay, I share how childhood trauma shaped my romantic relationships, why I mistook intensity for connection, and how therapy and somatic work helped me learn that the quality of my romantic relationships was directly proportional to the quality of my relationship with myself.

In times of global crisis and unsettling news, staying engaged doesn’t have to mean staying overwhelmed. This piece explores how to find moments of calm and regulation—not to look away from harm, but to remain present, grounded, and able to show up in meaningful ways.

Healing isn’t supposed to feel like a job you’re failing at.
If the idea of doing more healing work makes your body shut down, you’re not behind—you might just be at capacity. This is an invitation to slow all the way down and let your body lead.

If safety is new or survival mode has been home, embodiment can feel uncomfortable. This post explores why that happens and how to reconnect with your body through small, compassionate moments of awareness.

A trip to San Diego showed me the beauty of growth, the limits of my capacity, and the importance of listening to my body—especially when life feels full.

Healing isn’t always about pushing harder — sometimes it’s about slowing down enough to listen. After intense therapy and growth, I reached a point of strong resistance to almost all the tools I had learned. Somatic work became the bridge between who I had been and who I was becoming — teaching me how to stay with myself, not just understand myself.

Breathwork can be powerful — but not always regulating. For some nervous systems, certain breathing styles can feel overwhelming rather than calming. If you’ve ever felt agitated, dizzy, or resistant during breathwork, it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong — it means your body is asking for something different. In this piece, I explore why “more effort” isn’t always the answer, and how slowing down can turn breathwork into a practice of listening, not pushing.

If you’ve ever felt like your body knows things your mind can’t quite explain — you’ve already touched the world of somatic work. Rooted in the wisdom of the body, somatic work is a gentle, embodied approach to emotional growth, safety, and self-trust. It helps you bridge the gap between knowing and feeling — inviting you to slow down, listen within, and come home to yourself.

An illustrated letter for anyone who has experienced a difficult childhood.